Patience and Caring

The topic of the story “Self Reliance” is being dependent on yourself, and learning how to break free from other people’s expectations and obligations, developing your potential as an individual person. When you compare this with our two values, being caring and being patient, you wouldn’t find many similarities, but if you read the author’s essay carefully you might realize that they are more present that you think. When we start becoming more independent and we start thinking by ourselves and not caring about what other people think of us and being able to decide by our own mind, we are actually showing and taking care of ourselves because in this essay it its expressed that being self reliant can free a man from many things, like other’s opinions, routines, consistency, and conforming. the author says that you should trust thyself, meaning you should care and value your own opinion and learn to accept it, which is a part of caring for yourself and deciding that being more individual is the best for you. the value of patience is not in the story as much but can still be an important part of self reliance, like being a patient person when it comes to people misunderstanding you or making fun of the way you choose to live your life and even being patient with yourself when people don't understand why you want to be self reliant, because becoming a more independent person is a progress and can not be done in a day or two. when you care for yourself, you are being self reliant. you are not depending on others for things, only in you, because for you there is only you. caring and being patient can also mean to care and be patient to other people, but in this story the main focus and point is only you, not other people. in the first part of the essay the author says that “there is a time in every man’s education when he arrives t the conviction that envy is ignorance, that imitation is suicide, that he must take himself for better for worse as his portion” which can also show very well the fact that self reliance also means caring for yourself, because you realize that living as another person and not truly you is very harmful to your individuality. As aan example, if a person copies everything another person does, has to ask the other person’s opinions on everything, follows them, the person does not care for themselves, because they only appreciate the side that is copying the other person, not the true one that they get to choose and decide by themselves. That's why spending time alone is not bad, because you get to be alone with yourself and not anyone else. when you care for yourself you love the person you are. in this story we can learn a lot about self reliance and i think that is extremely important if we want to be successful people in life.